The Downside Of Change

I’ve been in a strange sort of mood the past week or so…wistful, nostalgic, sometimes even downright melancholy (…perhaps I should borrow Jess’s phrase: bittersweet…). I think a few different factors converged to create this frame of mind. The rain surely plays a part; when it rains as much as it has lately down here, it’s bound to take a toll eventually. I believe that getting older factors in as well. And all my thinking about the 20th anniversary of Eastridge has come together with these other factors to create a perfect storm of funk (and not funk in the cool James Brown or George Clinton kind of way, either…). To break it down to its core, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how, in the midst of truly positive change, some relationships fall away or get left by the wayside.

I spent some time Wednesday night with a group of people, most of whom were a family who was like a second family to me for so many years. In the last handful of years, different changes have peeled away the closeness of most of those relationships until I only have regular contact with one person in that family. It’s sad, but I guess it’s inevitable.

When we started Eastridge back in 1989, there were seven or eight families who took the journey with us that first week and more who came on board in the early months of our existence. Now, there are only a few of us “originals” left. Some just drifted away; others left because, in their eyes, the church grew too large and couldn’t “be like it used to be.” Change comes without fail, and sometimes it rocks the boat too hard for people.

I suppose that’s the downside of change. When you grow, most people don’t grow right along with you. Marriages dissolve. People get sick. Others make wrong choices, small and large. We can’t escape our lives evolving and transforming, and unfortunately some relationships get left in the wake of change. For someone like me who thrives on relationships, it’s a tough pill to swallow.

That’s what I’ve been struggling with lately.

OK, I think I’ve gotten that out of my system. I’m gonna go and be happy now…


4 thoughts on “The Downside Of Change

  1. Hey. Bittersweet. Sometimes it just says it all. 🙂

    That is a tough lesson to learn though. Or rather a hard transition to make? When you’re forced to grow apart from those near and dear to you, either going separate directions in life or just growing at different rates. But, change can be good, too. (Ha. Says I, the fearer of all change.) But, it’s true. (Unless it’s so-called ‘change you can believe in’…. *shudder*…)

  2. I’m a firm believer that most change is good. We may not see it at the time, but in the long run it’s good. (Of course, if it’s from God, it’s good…Romans 8:28…)

    And as for your last sentence, I have a feeling 2010 will bring a totally different kind of change in Congress.

  3. There’s good and bad to everything. And we just have to trust that God will bring about good to those who continue to look to Him. And if it takes an act of Congress to get us back to our knees and looking to Him… then so be it. At least we’ll be back to where we should’ve been all along. AND we’ll be in good company! 🙂

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